The User Manual You Never GotLiving Your Actual Size

The Talk

People spend their lives being told they're "too much"—too chatty, too picky, too demanding, too sensitive, too intense. So they learn to squeeze themselves into right-sized bubbles. They fight what actually works for them. They spend years trying to fix things that were never broken.

And when the bubble inevitably pops? The explosion just confirms they were right to squeeze in the first place.

This talk is about what happens when they stop squeezing. When they start working with who they actually are instead of fighting it. When they begin to figure out what their actual size really is.

The Takeaways

1. Permission to stop fighting—and own what works
2. Recognition for the differences—not as flaws, but as features
3. Tools to seek real explanations—not self-blame
4. Ability to recognize quirks and needs—even the weird ones
5. Direction for what comes next—and confidence to try it

The Audience

From corporate teams addressing burnout to student leaders finding their voice to professionals reclaiming their space—anyone ready to stop fighting themselves and start working with who they actually are.

"I help audiences work with—instead of against—themselves by speaking about the user manual no one gave us."